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Bullying at School, workplace bullying and cyberbullying advice

Bullying at school, bullying at work and Cyberbullying bullying advice for staff, managers, children and parents

Most people understand bullying as behaviour by an individual or group, repeated over time, that is intended to

hurt another individual or group either physically or emotionally. If you are struggling with bullying, harassment,

cyberbullying or anti-social behaviour issues, we hope this website will enable you to identify solutions and

remedies along with practical help.

 

All bullying, whatever the motivation or method is unacceptable and should not be tolerated. It can affect

anyone and we are all potential targets - whether we are adult, child or the bullying is at school, in the

community, at work, on line or at home.

 

By law, all schools must have measures in place to prevent bullying and teachers, pupils and parents should be told what that policy is. A schools involvement in tackling bullying should not start at the point at which a child or student has been bullied. Good schools develop an ethos to prevent bullying happening in the first place. When bullying does occur, it is important for schools to respond promptly, support the bullied pupil and ensure that bullying does not happen again.

 

Likewise, employers should have robust procedures in place to deal with bullying in the workplace. If you are being bullied, talk to your employer and find out what procedures and policies are in place and find out how to make a formal complaint using your employer’s grievance procedure.

12-18 November 2018 is Anti Bullying Week. Choose Respect

Anti Bullying Week is 12 to 18 November 2018.

This years’ theme is ‘Choose Respect’.

At The National Bullying Helpline we want to promote the theme ‘Choose Respect’.

In order to do this, given that we spend most of our time thinking about the somewhat distressed target of bullying,

we would like to focus a little on the bully. Our objective is to ensure you feel ‘informed’ so that you can, in turn,

develop coping strategies for yourself and your loved ones.

 

  • Learn why some people (adults and children) bully, while others become victims.
  • Understand how bullies choose their targets
  • Develop a strategy and gather the tools you will need in order to protect yourself

 

It’s not rocket science in fact. A bully will likely be struggling with his or her own demons or problems, which in some cases are extremely deep-routed and historic. A bully may even be feeling insecure or threatened in some way, consciously or sub-consciously. They may simply feel a need to be regarded as ‘top dog’ – to be seen as the person who has power, control and authority over others.

 

Don’t be fooled. In reality the bully is experiencing a cocktail of emotions themselves - from real fear and vulnerability to a somewhat perverted feeling of triumph and euphoria which they feel if they believe they have control over others. In reality, controlling a situation merely feeds the bullies own inadequacies. In reality, the target of the bully is the stronger person – certainly at the outset.

 

We say bullying is abuse of power and we know it is ultimately about a power over others but we should never forget that these bullies are actually hiding their own inadequacies. They often lack interpersonal skills.  They are weak. They are cowards.  If given a choice, they prefer to remain anonymous. This is why so many bullies work with gangs or collaborators, particularly in the workplace or school playground. Today, given our world of ever-changing technology, it’s easy to hide in cyberspace behind a pseudo name. If a bully is identified and accused of being a bully, they quickly switch persona and adopt the role of the victim. Sound familiar?  It’s a classic tactic.

 

Often, where a parent reports that their child is being bullied we learn later that the child-bully is, or has been, abused themselves. They may simply have witnessed violence or abuse which has left them feeling unsafe, traumatised and vulnerable. They desperately need our help too. In both the playground and workplace particularly a bully will target a person who is perceived as a threat in some way. They make it their personal objective to humiliate and belittle that target until their victim stands down, backs off or has a health break-down.  The target will probably feel a profound sense of injustice at having become the centre of a rather unpleasant and humiliating situation. It need only be a temporary situation – believe me. There is a way forward.

 

At The National Bullying Helpline we ask those who are experiencing bullying right now to stop and think, for a moment, about what is actually occurring here. If you are being bullied don’t internalise it. Don’t become a ‘victim’.  Think about the bigger picture.  The way you think about your situation will help you identify a solution. To develop coping mechanisms to deal with a bully you need to understand what is driving the bully and develop your own strategies.  If you are dealing with a child bully, consider the childs’ welfare (home-life and personal circumstances) when considering the action you will take. If you are dealing with bullying in the home, community or workplace there is a great deal you can do.

 

We have written a series of guides on approaches and strategies to cover all scenarios in order to help you overcome and combat bullying. Even where it is eCRIME (cyberbullying) provided you know who the bully is you can take action. In every case, you can protect yourself and turn the situation round – if you really want to! Legislation is catching up with anti-social behaviour, both on and off-line, so provided you follow our advice and behave professionally yourself, there is so much you can do. To start this process, choose to be respectful. Next, keep both yourself and your loved ones informed.

 

Knowledge is power !

Choose Respect 12-18 November 2018 is Anti Bullying Week.

Bullying Help Guides and downloads

Here you will find Bullying Guides to help you through your current situation. They are well structured and contains sample letters and guidance to assist in almost every scenario. There will be something for you here to help tackle bullying, on or off-line. Before calling our helpline, take a quick look at the documents below.

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Is your child being bullied, is a guide written by the founder of the National Bullying Helpline designed to walk you through every step of the process and help you resolve the problems your child is facing.

 

The guide includes everything you need to know from setting expectations, the role of the school, how to escalate matters to detailed template letters to the school, Headmaster and Governors or Trustees.

If someone has posted false, malicious or private things about you online and you believe the cyberbully is someone you know or used to be friends with, this can be very distressing.

 

This guide will help you understand what you can do and how to persuade the perpetrator to stop bullying you.

Anyone accused of being a bully will, naturally, be upset. If you are accused, it may be you are being subjected to a form of bullying yourself. Or, it may be, you need some assistance or additional resources.

 

This document is aimed at assisting those who are accused of bullying – whether there is substance to the allegation or not.

Worried about your child at school

We often hear from parents regarding a negative response they 'allege' they have received from their child's School. Obviously this does not apply to all Schools. However, more and more we hear of cases where parents are left feeling angry and frustrated with a School because all attempts to raise matters with the school have proved fruitless.

 

Sometimes, the bullying incident(s) involving the child becomes secondary - as the relationship between the parent and the School breaks down completely. We have even heard from some parents that a School has labelled them 'paranoid'.  The parent wants to protect their child. The Teacher and School wants to protect their reputation. When both parties are at a point self preservation it can be very difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Worried about your child
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Tim Field - Bully in Sight

The late Tim Field wrote the first UK website for employees. He also published Bully In Sight : How to predict, resist, challenge and combat workplace bullying. Tim’s unique insight into bullying, gained from personal experience, enable everyone to appreciate the causes, consequences and costs of this inappropriate but widespread style of behaviour which blights lives.

 

In his book, Tim talks about; Human behaviour, effects of bullying, common excuses, remedies and what can be done. He addresses the role of the bully. How bullying manifests, itself’, process, serial bullying, bullying phases, bully behaviours and bullies in denial. He even discusses psychopathic personalities and bullying phrases. For the victim he talks about strategies, symptoms, hypervigilance, remedies and solutions through to recovery and relationships moving forward.

 

Bully In Sight was written before the technology kicked in and before cyber bullying became an issue. Nevertheless, this book was written with real ‘insight’ and years ahead of its time. We recommend it to you. If you would like a copy, please contact us.

Bully in Sight

How to predict, resist,

challenge and combat

workplace bullying -

Overcoming the silence

and denial by which

abuse thrives.

 

This book is essential reading if you are being bullied at work, to many this book is the definitive book about bullying.

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National Bullying Helpline Patron - Debbie Arnold

Our Patron - Debbie Arnold

The National Bullying Helpline is pleased to announce that Actress Debbie Arnold has agreed to come on board as an Ambassador. Debbie is an Actress, an Author, an Altruist, a Writer and a Voice Artist. She has raised millions for charity.   Apart from a distinguished stage abs voice-over career she has appeared in every UK  TV soap over the last 30 years as a regular character. We are delighted to have her on board as Ambassador as she will help us convey some of the more important messages where harassment and sexual abuse is alleged. We want people to feel safe and comfortable and able to speak out.

 

" By becoming an Ambassador for us Debbie is making her position extremely clear where bullying and harassment are concerned.  She is extraordinarily talented and a very strong, focused and professional woman. She will be able to help us convey some of our more important messages where harassment and sexual abuse is concerned and we are delighted to have her on board". Founder of The National Bullying Helpline

Confidentiality and Complaints Policy

Our 'duty of confidentiality' is, and always has been, to our clients. We never have, nor ever will, release your details to a third party.  That said, the general public have a legitimate expectation and from time to time they reasonably expect us, as an anti-bullying organisation, to 'speak out' to further our cause in the interests of best practice and to campaign for a stress-free, bully-free, world. This is what we do. This does not mean to say that The National Bullying Helpline ever will, or ever has, breached client confidentiality.

 

We have a robust Complaints Policy. If you have any concerns email us at; admin@nationalbullyinghelpline.co.uk   or write to PO Box 1276 Swindon. SN25 4UX

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Thank you for your support

The 1st Mathern Brownie Unit

The staff and founder of the National Bullying Helpline would like to say a very special thank you to the 24 girls from the 1st Mathern Brownie Unit, Mathern near Chepstow.

 

The girls, all aged between 7 and 10 walked an impressive 6.5 Kilometres across the Severn Bridge to raise money for our Helpline. This is an amazing achievement by all the girls who have raised a whopping £505. Thank you so much for your hard work and your kindness in choosing the National Bullying Helpline.

Girls from the 1st Mathern Brownie Unit from Mathern near Chepstow in Wales
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Bullying destroys lives

Bullying destroys lives and can have a devastating and lasting effect on someone subjected to constant abuse or harassment. Please like and share our Facebook page so we can reach a wider community of people potentially looking for help

Local Business Podcast

Episode 6: Business Bullying

Founder of the National Bullying Helpline, Christine Pratt, was recently featured on the Local Business Podcast. In the episode we were able to highlight the affects that bullying has in the home, at school and in the workplace. If you’d like to gain some insight into how the organisation started or more about bullying in general, then feel free to give it a listen.

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When You Decide To Call

“When you decide to call” was written by songwriters David MIndel and Adrian Bax and the Video, marketing and release involved Trevor Eyles and Jon Diamond. Debbie Arnold coordinated the entire project during her first month as Ambassador for the helpline and gifted the song to us. 441, the singers, are an extraordinarily talented and exciting group of four diverse young musicians who have formed a band to both make music and make a positive difference to the world we live in today.  They have a tremendous future – so watch out for them. Please support our helpline by downloading  ‘When You Decide To Call’ … today

CONTACT US

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OPENING HOURS We are open from 9am to 5pm Monday to Saturday. We will take urgent calls after hours. We are a voluntary run helpline with limited resources and funding so please be patient if you are unable to get through first time. All donations gratefully received !

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The NATIONAL BULLYING HELPLINE is run by Volunteers and is a member of NCVO Member ID: MEMBERVC/17761

The National Council for Voluntary Organisations (NCVO) is the largest umbrella body for the voluntary and community sector in England and champions and strengthens volunteering and civil society, with over 10,000 members, from the largest charities to the smallest community organisations.

http://www.ncvo.org.uk/about-us.

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Help for Employees

If you believe you are being bullied or harassed at work by a colleague or management, we can help.  You may have been Suspended, Dismissed or Disciplined or left feeling you have been treated unfairly.  Click here to find ideas, solutions and strategies to ease your work-related stress and help you though the situation.  Hopefully this will lead to a solution to your problem.

Employee Help
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We specialise in all areas of employment law related to Bullying in the workplace and conflict resolution. From dealing with difficult staff to Independent workplace investigations we can help. If you are a Supervisor, team leader, line manager or Director and you have responsibility for managing staff, you will find guidelines, tips, recommendations and solutions here.

If your son or daughter is getting bullied at school or you are a parent dealing with a distressed child who is being bullied right now. We can help with practical advice that's proven to stop bullying or help you approach the school to address the situation. Maybe the school simply isn't doing enough to prevent bullying or protect you child.

Whatever you bullying situation, we can help

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Cyberbullying

Cyberbullying is on the increase - more and more cases are being reported to our helpline by children and extremely worried parents every day. It's a personal attack using technology, which is intended to cause you harm or distress. If you have been the target of on-line abuse or believe you are the victim of cyberbullying. We can offer practical advice and solutions to put a stop to this ecrime.

Cyberbullying Help

Self Harm Amongst Teenagers

During 2017 there was a most disturbing, steep, rise in self-harm statistics among teenage girls, according to The BBC News. We have to ask whether some of these statistics are linked to bullying and to a condition The National Bullying Helpline is recognising in the UK called Post Traumatic Embitterment Disorder.

Self Harm Amongst Teenagers

Stress related to bullying at work

Stress is one on the biggest contributors to long term sick leave in the UK with over half a million workers citing stress, depression or anxiety as a factor to their absence in the last year. For more information about stress related to bullying at work click here as we address the issue of Work Related Stress and talk you through causes, effect and action you can take to reduce the risk of negative stress.

Stress related to bullying

Bullying on Social Media

With the rise of mobile phones and hand-held devices, social media has become part of everyone’s life and the use of social media has seen the growth of online bullying. Social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat allow people to share photos and video instantly around the world. We communicate with our friends and family through social media and it has become a vital part of business. For help and advice on tackling bulling on social media click here

Bullying on Social Media

Do you know someone at risk or have concerns for a friend or colleague?

We will act if we believe and adult or child is at risk or in danger. We have a Service Agreement with Wiltshire Police, covering the UK, and we work closely with them in cases where an individual feels intimidated or threatened in any way. In an emergency you can contact the Police Domestic Violence Liaison Officer : North & West Wilts. Telephone: 01249 449766

 

We help people in distress in a practical, positive, timely, way and in some cases we will put callers in touch with professional service providers ; (ACAS, Solicitors, Mediators, Counsellors and other dispute resolution service providers etc).

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eCRIME Action is a dedicated website set up by the National Bullying Helpline to help anyone effected by cyber bullying or online harassment. We hope that eCRIME Action website will give the public ‘choice’ in terms of help-lines, guidance and expertise available to take pressure off Parents, Schools and the Police.

eCRIME Action
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The Rt Hon DAVID CAMERON MP

Stamping out bullying in the workplace and elsewhere is a vital objective. Not only can bullying make people's lives a misery, but it harms business and wider society too. So I congratulate the National Bullying Helpline for its efforts to give practical support to those being bullied, and to make bullying a thing of the past

TELEPHONE: 0845 22 55 787 | admin@nationalbullyinghelpline.co.uk

* Call Charges: 0845 calls are charged at circa 7p per minute plus your Telecom providers access charges. We do not receive revenue from inbound calls and nor do we profit from calls. The National Bullying Helpline is a member of NCVO Member ID: MEMBERVC/17761

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12-18 November 2018 is Anti Bullying Week. Choose Respect

Most people understand bullying as behaviour by an individual or group, repeated over time, that is intended to hurt another individual or group either physically or emotionally. If you are struggling with bullying, harassment, cyberbullying or anti-social behaviour issues, we hope this website will enable you to identify solutions and remedies along with practical help.

 

All bullying, whatever the motivation or method is unacceptable and should not be tolerated. It can affect anyone and we are all potential targets - whether we are adult, child or the bullying is at school, in the community, at work, on line or at home.

 

By law, all schools must have measures in place to prevent bullying and teachers, pupils and parents should be told what that policy is. A schools involvement in tackling bullying should not start at the point at which a child or student has been bullied. Good schools develop an ethos to prevent bullying happening in the first place. When bullying does occur, it is important for schools to respond promptly, support the bullied pupil and ensure that bullying does not happen again.

 

Likewise, employers should have robust procedures in place to deal with bullying in the workplace. If you are being bullied, talk to your employer and find out what procedures and policies are in place and find out how to make a formal complaint using your employer’s grievance procedure.

Choose Respect 12-18 November 2018 is Anti Bullying Week.

Anti Bullying

Week is

12 to 18

November 2018.

This years’ theme

is ‘Choose Respect’.

A young girl upset due to bullying

With the rise of mobile phones and

hand-held devices, social media

has become part of everyone’s life

and the use of social media has

seen the growth of online bullying. Social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat allow people to share photos and video instantly around the world. We communicate with our friends and family through social media and it has become a vital part of business. For help and advice on tackling bulling on social media click here

Facebook logo on phone
Book cover for Bully In Sight
National Bullying Helpline Patron - Debbie Arnold

The National Bullying Helpline

is pleased to announce that

Actress Debbie Arnold has

agreed to come on board as an

Ambassador. Debbie is an Actress, an Author, an Altruist, a Writer and a Voice Artist. She has raised millions for charity.   Apart from a distinguished stage abs voice-over career she has appeared in every UK  TV soap over the last 30 years as a regular character. We are delighted to have her on board as Ambassador as she will help us convey some of the more important messages where harassment and sexual abuse is alleged. We want people to feel safe and comfortable and able to speak out.

 

" By becoming an Ambassador for us Debbie is making her position extremely clear where bullying and harassment are concerned.  She is extraordinarily talented and a very strong, focused and professional woman. She will be able to help us convey some of our more important messages where harassment and sexual abuse is concerned and we are delighted to have her on board". Founder of The National Bullying Helpline

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