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Bullying at School, workplace bullying and cyberbullying advice

Bullying at school, bullying at work and Cyberbullying bullying advice for staff, managers, children and parents

Most people understand bullying as behaviour by an individual or group, repeated over time, that is intended to hurt another individual or group either physically or emotionally. If you are struggling with bullying, harassment, cyberbullying or anti-social behaviour issues, we hope this website will enable you to identify solutions and remedies along with practical help.

 

All bullying, whatever the motivation or method is unacceptable and should not be tolerated. It can affect anyone and we are all potential targets - whether we are adult, child or the bullying is at school, in the community, at work, on line or at home.

 

By law, all schools must have measures in place to prevent bullying and teachers, pupils and parents should be told what that policy is. A schools involvement in tackling bullying should not start at the point at which a child or student has been bullied. Good schools develop an ethos to prevent bullying happening in the first place. When bullying does occur, it is important for schools to respond promptly, support the bullied pupil and ensure that bullying does not happen again.

 

Likewise, employers should have robust procedures in place to deal with bullying in the workplace. If you are being bullied, talk to your employer and find out what procedures and policies are in place and find out how to make a formal complaint using your employer’s grievance procedure.

Self Harm Amongst Teenagers

During 2017 there was a most disturbing, steep, rise in self-harm statistics among teenage girls, according to The BBC News.   We have to ask whether some of these statistics are linked to bullying and to a condition The National Bullying Helpline is recognising in the UK called Post Traumatic Embitterment Disorder.

 

Self-harm among young people aged 10 to 19 has risen since 2001. The study, which used reliable national databases to look at trends, reported a rate of self-harm at 37 per 10,000 girls and 12.3 per 10,000 boys in 2017. There were several other notable findings, including a 68% rise in rates of self-harm among girls aged 13 to 16 years, since 2011.  Some cases involved use of drugs or alcohol and social divide – finding higher rates in more deprived areas.  Disturbingly, the study did not explore the reasons behind these trends. We cannot ignore the possibility that many cases of self-harm go unreported.  We have to ask whether bullying and exclusion and feelings of embitterment played a role in these desperately sad cases.   Teenagers and young adults fear humiliation and are often reluctant to ask for help. Are these self-harm cases a cry for help or an expression of anger.

What can we do about them?

Embittered people are often angry with the world around them as a result of something significant that has hurt them and/or impacted on their view of others around them.  Adults and children suffer with embitterment and a deep routed depression.  Mediation and Counselling will not work as this category of patient will struggle to empathise as the believe others around them need to change, not them.

 

Our research into PTED addresses an approach called ‘Wisdom Therapy’ or Coaching – and a carefully structured technique which will encourage this category of mental health patient to look at the past differently and focus more on the future.  It’s not quite as simple as it sounds.  It will require extensive skills and patience and much more research needs to take place.  However, we are optimistic about the future.

Worried about your child at school

We often hear from parents regarding a negative response they 'allege' they have received from their child's School. Obviously this does not apply to all Schools. However, more and more we hear of cases where parents are left feeling angry and frustrated with a School because all attempts to raise matters with the school have proved fruitless.

 

Sometimes, the bullying incident(s) involving the child becomes secondary - as the relationship between the parent and the School breaks down completely. We have even heard from some parents that a School has labelled them 'paranoid'.  The parent wants to protect their child. The Teacher and School wants to protect their reputation. When both parties are at a point self preservation it can be very difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Worried about your child

Stress is one on the biggest contributors to long term sick leave in the UK with over half a million workers citing stress, depression or anxiety as a factor to their absence in the last year. For more information about stress related to bullying at work click here as we address the issue of Work Related Stress and talk you through causes, effect and action you can take to reduce the risk of negative stress.

Stress related to bullying

Do you know someone at risk or have concerns for a friend or colleague?

We will act if we believe and adult or child is at risk or in danger. We have a Service Agreement with Wiltshire Police, covering the UK, and we work closely with them in cases where an individual feels intimidated or threatened in any way. In an emergency you can contact the Police Domestic Violence Liaison Officer : North & West Wilts. Telephone: 01249 449766

 

We help people in distress in a practical, positive, timely, way and in some cases we will put callers in touch with professional service providers ; (ACAS, Solicitors, Mediators, Counsellors and other dispute resolution service providers etc).

Tim Field - Bully in Sight

The late Tim Field wrote the first UK website for employees. He also published Bully In Sight : How to predict, resist, challenge and combat workplace bullying. Tim’s unique insight into bullying, gained from personal experience, enable everyone to appreciate the causes, consequences and costs of this inappropriate but widespread style of behaviour which blights lives.

 

In his book, Tim talks about; Human behaviour, effects of bullying, common excuses, remedies and what can be done. He addresses the role of the bully. How bullying manifests, itself’, process, serial bullying, bullying phases, bully behaviours and bullies in denial. He even discusses psychopathic personalities and bullying phrases. For the victim he talks about strategies, symptoms, hypervigilance, remedies and solutions through to recovery and relationships moving forward.

 

Bully In Sight was written before the technology kicked in and before cyber bullying became an issue. Nevertheless, this book was written with real ‘insight’ and years ahead of its time. We recommend it to you. If you would like a copy, please contact us.

Bully in Sight

How to predict, resist,

challenge and combat

workplace bullying -

Overcoming the silence

and denial by which

abuse thrives.

 

This book is essential reading if you are being bullied at work, to many this book is the definitive book about bullying.

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National Bullying Helpline Patron - Debbie Arnold

Our Patron - Debbie Arnold

The National Bullying Helpline is pleased to announce that Actress Debbie Arnold has agreed to come on board as an Ambassador. Debbie is an Actress, an Author, an Altruist, a Writer and a Voice Artist. She has raised millions for charity.   Apart from a distinguished stage abs voice-over career she has appeared in every UK  TV soap over the last 30 years as a regular character. We are delighted to have her on board as Ambassador as she will help us convey some of the more important messages where harassment and sexual abuse is alleged. We want people to feel safe and comfortable and able to speak out.

 

" By becoming an Ambassador for us Debbie is making her position extremely clear where bullying and harassment are concerned.  She is extraordinarily talented and a very strong, focused and professional woman. She will be able to help us convey some of our more important messages where harassment and sexual abuse is concerned and we are delighted to have her on board". Founder of The National Bullying Helpline

Confidentiality and Complaints Policy

Our 'duty of confidentiality' is, and always has been, to our clients. We never have, nor ever will, release your details to a third party.  That said, the general public have a legitimate expectation and from time to time they reasonably expect us, as an anti-bullying organisation, to 'speak out' to further our cause in the interests of best practice and to campaign for a stress-free, bully-free, world. This is what we do. This does not mean to say that The National Bullying Helpline ever will, or ever has, breached client confidentiality.

 

We have a robust Complaints Policy. If you have any concerns email us at; admin@nationalbullyinghelpline.co.uk   or write to PO Box 1276 Swindon. SN25 4UX

Thank you for your support

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Bullying on Social Media

With the rise of mobile phones and hand-held devices, social media has become part of everyone’s life and the use of social media has seen the growth of online bullying. Social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat allow people to share photos and video instantly around the world. We communicate with our friends and family through social media and it has become a vital part of business. For help and advice on tackling bulling on social media click here

If you believe that someone you know at school or work is at risk of self harm, violence or suicide, please call 999

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The 1st Mathern Brownie Unit

The staff and founder of the National Bullying Helpline would like to say a very special thank you to the 24 girls from the 1st Mathern Brownie Unit, Mathern near Chepstow.

 

The girls, all aged between 7 and 10 walked an impressive 6.5 Kilometres across the Severn Bridge to raise money for our Helpline. This is an amazing achievement by all the girls who have raised a whopping £505. Thank you so much for your hard work and your kindness in choosing the National Bullying Helpline.

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Help for Employees

If you believe you are being bullied or harassed at work by a colleague or management, we can help.  You may have been Suspended, Dismissed or Disciplined or left feeling you have been treated unfairly.  Click here to find ideas, solutions and strategies to ease your work-related stress and help you though the situation.  Hopefully this will lead to a solution to your problem.

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We specialise in all areas of employment law related to Bullying in the workplace and conflict resolution. From dealing with difficult staff to Independent workplace investigations we can help. If you are a Supervisor, team leader, line manager or Director and you have responsibility for managing staff, you will find guidelines, tips, recommendations and solutions here.

If your son or daughter is getting bullied at school or you are a parent dealing with a distressed child who is being bullied right now. We can help with practical advice that's proven to stop bullying or help you approach the school to address the situation. Maybe the school simply isn't doing enough to prevent bullying or protect you child.

Whatever you bullying situation, we can help

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Cyberbullying

Cyberbullying is on the increase - more and more cases are being reported to our helpline by children and extremely worried parents every day. It's a personal attack using technology, which is intended to cause you harm or distress. If you have been the target of on-line abuse or believe you are the victim of cyberbullying. We can offer practical advice and solutions to put a stop to this ecrime.

Cyberbullying Help

Bullying Help Guides and downloads

Here you will find Bullying Guides to help you through your current situation. They are well structured and contains sample letters and guidance to assist in almost every scenario. There will be something for you here to help tackle bullying, on or off-line. Before calling our helpline, take a quick look at the documents below.

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Is your child being bullied, is a guide written by the founder of the National Bullying Helpline designed to walk you through every step of the process and help you resolve the problems your child is facing.

 

The guide includes everything you need to know from setting expectations, the role of the school, how to escalate matters to detailed template letters to the school, Headmaster and Governors or Trustees.

If someone has posted false, malicious or private things about you online and you believe the cyberbully is someone you know or used to be friends with, this can be very distressing.

 

This guide will help you understand what you can do and how to persuade the perpetrator to stop bullying you.

Anyone accused of being a bully will, naturally, be upset. If you are accused, it may be you are being subjected to a form of bullying yourself. Or, it may be, you need some assistance or additional resources.

 

This document is aimed at assisting those who are accused of bullying – whether there is substance to the allegation or not.

What can we do to stop bullying in schools

As each year passes we receive the same phone calls to the helpline from worried parents and distressed children asking for help to deal with bullying at their local school or collage. We are alarmed at the increase in death threats across the UK, suicide attempts amongst teenagers and an increase in on-line abuse through various social media forums.

 

This year during Ban Bullying week 2018, we will no doubt see a significant increase in calls to bullying charities and helplines due to media coverage. Raising awareness is always good and this year will be no exception. This gives us all the opportunity to raise awareness and think about how we can put a stop to bullying.

 

Typically, parents call a helpline because they feel their child’s school has been unhelpful, accepts no responsibility or simply does not believe them. Of course this does not apply to all schools but when a parent finds themselves in this position they need someone to listen to, bring some common sense to the table and advise them what to do. Despite the fact that most UK schools have an Anti-Bullying policy or mission statement – procedural guidelines are often non-existent. Government, including The Department for Education, Ofsted and Ministers, should be working to bring about change.

 

In the workplace we have dispute resolution procedures (The ACAS Code of Practice for example) but schools are left to their own devices. It is the current view of The Department of Education that Schools should put their own procedures in place. This is not good enough. Ofsted say they do not have the power to address bullying in schools,

 

A routine Ofsted inspection could involve a review of bullying statistics in every UK school. Ofsted could be asking how many bullying complaints have been raised and what outcomes and remedial action is taken. We need clearly communicated guidelines for both parents and schools. Every school should have a Safeguarding Officer who is held accountable for overseeing due process. This will free up the teachers who are currently having to deal with distressed parents. Parents will know how to set out their concerns in a constructive and professional manner and, importantly, will have some confidence knowing that they are being listened to.

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eCRIME Action is a dedicated website set up by the National Bullying Helpline to help anyone effected by cyber bullying or online harassment. We hope that eCRIME Action website will give the public ‘choice’ in terms of help-lines, guidance and expertise available to take pressure off Parents, Schools and the Police.

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The Rt Hon DAVID CAMERON MP

Stamping out bullying in the workplace and elsewhere is a vital objective. Not only can bullying make people's lives a misery, but it harms business and wider society too. So I congratulate the National Bullying Helpline for its efforts to give practical support to those being bullied, and to make bullying a thing of the past

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National Bullying Helpline Patron - Debbie Arnold

The National Bullying Helpline

is pleased to announce that

Actress Debbie Arnold has

agreed to come on board as an

Ambassador. Debbie is an Actress, an Author, an Altruist, a Writer and a Voice Artist. She has raised millions for charity.   Apart from a distinguished stage abs voice-over career she has appeared in every UK  TV soap over the last 30 years as a regular character. We are delighted to have her on board as Ambassador as she will help us convey some of the more important messages where harassment and sexual abuse is alleged. We want people to feel safe and comfortable and able to speak out.

 

" By becoming an Ambassador for us Debbie is making her position extremely clear where bullying and harassment are concerned.  She is extraordinarily talented and a very strong, focused and professional woman. She will be able to help us convey some of our more important messages where harassment and sexual abuse is concerned and we are delighted to have her on board". Founder of The National Bullying Helpline

With the rise of mobile phones and

hand-held devices, social media

has become part of everyone’s life

and the use of social media has

seen the growth of online bullying. Social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat allow people to share photos and video instantly around the world. We communicate with our friends and family through social media and it has become a vital part of business. For help and advice on tackling bulling on social media click here

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