Bullying at Work - Advice for Employees
Bullying at Work - Advice for Managers
Frequently asked Questions
Bullying in the NHS
Conciliation in the Workplace
Spotting the Signs of Gaslighting
Work Related Stress
Bullying at School
Bullying Help Guides
Self Harm & Suicide
Bullying on Social Media
Hacking & Blackmail
Work Related Stress
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Most people understand bullying as behaviour by an individual or group, repeated over time, that is intended to hurt another individual or group either physically or emotionally. If you are struggling with bullying, harassment, cyberbullying or anti-social behaviour issues, we hope this website will enable you to identify solutions and remedies along with practical help.
All bullying, whatever the motivation or method is unacceptable and should not be tolerated. It can affect anyone and we are all potential targets - whether we are adult, child or the bullying is at school, in the community, at work, on line or at home.
By law, all schools must have measures in place to prevent bullying and teachers, pupils and parents should be told what that policy is. A schools involvement in tackling bullying should not start at the point at which a child or student has been bullied. Good schools develop an ethos to prevent bullying happening in the first place. When bullying does occur, it is important for schools to respond promptly, support the bullied pupil and ensure that bullying does not happen again.
Likewise, employers should have robust procedures in place to deal with bullying in the workplace. If you are being bullied, talk to your employer and find out what procedures and policies are in place and find out how to make a formal complaint using your employer’s grievance procedure.
The National Bullying Helpline are employment law specialists and can help anyone dealing with bullying at work. We can advise you on your rights and what you can do next if you have been bullied at work.
Bullying in the workplace can cover a wide variety of topics so if you need more information on any subject related to bullying, please call our confidential helpline on 0845 22 55 787.
Knowing your child is being bullied at school is extremely difficult for any parent to deal with. The only way to put a stop to bullying is if the parent and teacher work together to find the right solution. We are here to help and offer information and advice to help you communicate with the school and find a way to stop bullying.
An effective guide for parents dealing with a bullying problem at school
This step by step bullying guide, written by the founder of the National Bullying Helpline is designed to help parents put a stop to bullying. This guide includes practical solutions to help you report a bullying issue and how to escalate matters if you feel the school is not doing enough to protect your son or daughter.
We've included template letters to help you get a quick and effective response from the school.
If you believe you are being bullied or harassed at work by a colleague or management, we can help. You may have been Suspended, Dismissed or Disciplined or left feeling you have been treated unfairly. Click here to find ideas, solutions and strategies to ease your work-related stress and help you though the situation. Hopefully this will lead to a solution to your problem.
We specialise in all areas of employment law related to Bullying in the workplace and conflict resolution. From dealing with difficult staff to Independent workplace investigations we can help. If you are a Supervisor, team leader, line manager or Director and you have responsibility for managing staff, you will find guidelines, tips, recommendations and solutions here.
If your son or daughter is getting bullied at school or you are a parent dealing with a distressed child who is being bullied right now. We can help with practical advice that's proven to stop bullying or help you approach the school to address the situation. Maybe the school simply isn't doing enough to prevent bullying or protect you child. Whatever you bullying situation, we can help
Cyber-bullying is on the increase - more and more cases are being reported to our helpline by children and extremely worried parents every day. It's a personal attack using technology, which is intended to cause you harm or distress. If you have been the target of on-line abuse or believe you are the victim of cyberbullying. We can offer practical advice and solutions to put a stop to this ecrime.
During 2017 there was a most disturbing, steep, rise in self-harm statistics among teenage girls, according to The BBC News. We have to ask whether some of these statistics are linked to bullying and to a condition The National Bullying Helpline is recognising in the UK called Post Traumatic Embitterment Disorder.
Stress is one on the biggest contributors to long term sick leave in the UK with over half a million workers citing stress, depression or anxiety as a factor to their absence in the last year. For more information about stress related to bullying at work click here as we address the issue of Work Related Stress.
With the rise of mobile phones and hand-held devices, social media has become part of everyone’s life and the use of social media has seen the growth of online bullying. Social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat allow people to share photos and video instantly around the world.
If bullying is not addressed mental illness can result through the repetition of negative experiences emotions, thinking patterns and behaviours. It is essential to understand that by the time mental illness is visible, a person will have gone through a sustained period of upset, confusion and negative emotions.
If you have concerns or a bullying problem at work, you might want to take formal action with your employer. This is called raising a grievance.
We can explain the advantages and disadvantages of raising a formal grievance at work. We also talk you through the process in general terms. We address the process and the steps to follow, along with your options, the risks and potential outcomes.
There are risks in terms of raising a formal complaint but there are also risks of doing nothing.
In the workplace we have dispute resolution procedures (The ACAS Code of Practice for example) but schools are left to their own devices. It is the current view of The Department of Education that Schools should put their own procedures in place. This is not good enough. Ofsted say they do not have the power to address bullying in schools.
Maybe its time for a compulsory code of practice for schools and an anti bullying policy designed to resolve conflict similar to the model set out in the workplace.
Here you will find Bullying Guides to help you through your current situation. They are well structured and contains sample letters and guidance to assist in almost every scenario. There will be something for you here to help tackle bullying, on or off-line. Before calling our helpline, take a quick look at the documents below.
Is your child being bullied, is a guide written by the founder of the National Bullying Helpline designed to walk you through every step of the process and help you resolve the problems your child is facing.
The guide includes everything you need to know from setting expectations, the role of the school, how to escalate matters to detailed template letters to the school, Headmaster and Governors or Trustees.
If someone has posted false, malicious or private things about you online and you believe the cyberbully is someone you know or used to be friends with, this can be very distressing.
This guide will help you understand what you can do and how to persuade the perpetrator to stop bullying you.
Anyone accused of being a bully will, naturally, be upset. If you are accused, it may be you are being subjected to a form of bullying yourself. Or, it may be, you need some assistance or additional resources.
This document is aimed at assisting those who are accused of bullying – whether there is substance to the allegation or not.
Gaslighting is a subtle and extremely common form of bullying within the work environment. It’s a manipulate power-game with deliberate intent to control an individual or control a situation. Employees subject to Gaslighting find themselves second-guessing their every decision and questioning their own sanity, making them more dependent on their abuser.
Spotting the signs of Gaslighting is easier than you think and it is highly likely you have observed or been on the receiving end of this behaviour.
As technology evolves and becomes increasingly complex we will all experience cyberbullying at some point. An issue for us all is the prospect of having our email or computer hacked and locked-down. The hacking is very often followed by blackmail in the form of a ransom note. You may have received an email claiming to have personal images of you with instructions to pay an amount of money to prevent them from becoming public. We cannot stop these ruthless individuals from attempting to hack us but we can take steps to protect ourselves.
We often hear from parents regarding a negative response they 'allege' they have received from their child's School. Obviously this does not apply to all Schools. However, more and more we hear of cases where parents are left feeling angry and frustrated with a School because all attempts to raise matters with the school have proved fruitless.
Sometimes, the bullying incident(s) involving the child becomes secondary - as the relationship between the parent and the School breaks down completely. We have even heard from some parents that a School has labelled them 'paranoid'. The parent wants to protect their child. The Teacher and School wants to protect their reputation. When both parties are at a point self preservation it can be very difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
We will act if we believe and adult or child is at risk or in danger. We have a Service Agreement with Wiltshire Police, covering the UK, and we work closely with them in cases where an individual feels intimidated or threatened in any way. In an emergency you can contact the Police Domestic Violence Liaison Officer : North & West Wilts. Telephone: 01249 449766
We help people in distress in a practical, positive, timely, way and in some cases we will put callers in touch with professional service providers ; (ACAS, Solicitors, Mediators, Counsellors and other dispute resolution service providers etc).
The National Bullying Helpline is pleased to announce that Actress Debbie Arnold has agreed to come on board as an Ambassador. Debbie is an Actress, an Author, an Altruist, a Writer and a Voice Artist. She has raised millions for charity. Apart from a distinguished stage abs voice-over career she has appeared in every UK TV soap over the last 30 years as a regular character. We are delighted to have her on board as Ambassador as she will help us convey some of the more important messages where harassment and sexual abuse is alleged. We want people to feel safe and comfortable and able to speak out.
" By becoming an Ambassador for us Debbie is making her position extremely clear where bullying and harassment are concerned. She is extraordinarily talented and a very strong, focused and professional woman. She will be able to help us convey some of our more important messages where harassment and sexual abuse is concerned and we are delighted to have her on board". Founder of The National Bullying Helpline
“When you decide to call” was written by songwriters David MIndel and Adrian Bax and the Video, marketing and release involved Trevor Eyles and Jon Diamond. Debbie Arnold coordinated the entire project during her first month as Ambassador for the helpline and gifted the song to us.
441, the singers, are an extraordinarily talented and exciting group of four diverse young musicians who have formed a band to both make music and make a positive difference to the world we live in today. They have a tremendous future – so watch out for them. Please support our helpline by downloading ‘When You Decide To Call’ … today
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