Most people understand bullying as behaviour by an individual or group, repeated over time, that is intended to hurt another individual or group either physically or emotionally. If you are struggling with bullying, harassment, cyberbullying or anti-social behaviour issues, we hope this website will enable you to identify solutions and remedies along with practical help.
All bullying, whatever the motivation or method is unacceptable and should not be tolerated. It can affect anyone and we are all potential targets - whether we are adult, child or the bullying is at school, in the community, at work, on line or at home.
By law, all schools must have measures in place to prevent bullying and teachers, pupils and parents should be told what that policy is. A schools involvement in tackling bullying should not start at the point at which a child or student has been bullied. Good schools develop an ethos to prevent bullying happening in the first place. When bullying does occur, it is important for schools to respond promptly, support the bullied pupil and ensure that bullying does not happen again.
Likewise, employers should have robust procedures in place to deal with bullying in the workplace. If you are being bullied, talk to your employer and find out what procedures and policies are in place and find out how to make a formal complaint using your employer’s grievance procedure.
The National Bullying Helpline are employment law specialists and can help anyone dealing with bullying at work. We can advise you on your rights and what you can do next if you have been bullied at work.
Bullying in the workplace can cover a wide variety of topics so if you need more information on any subject related to bullying, please call our confidential helpline on 0845 22 55 787.
Knowing your child is being bullied at school is extremely difficult for any parent to deal with. The only way to put a stop to bullying is if the parent and teacher work together to find the right solution. We are here to help and offer information and advice to help you communicate with the school and find a way to stop bullying.
An effective guide for parents dealing with a bullying problem at school
This step by step bullying guide, written by the founder of the National Bullying Helpline is designed to help parents put a stop to bullying. This guide includes practical solutions to help you report a bullying issue and how to escalate matters if you feel the school is not doing enough to protect your son or daughter.
We've included template letters to help you get a quick and effective response from the school.
If you believe you are being bullied or harassed at work by a colleague or management, we can help. You may have been Suspended, Dismissed or Disciplined or left feeling you have been treated unfairly. Click here to find ideas, solutions and strategies to ease your work-related stress and help you though the situation. Hopefully this will lead to a solution to your problem.
We specialise in all areas of employment law related to Bullying in the workplace and conflict resolution. From dealing with difficult staff to Independent workplace investigations we can help. If you are a Supervisor, team leader, line manager or Director and you have responsibility for managing staff, you will find guidelines, tips, recommendations and solutions here.
If your son or daughter is getting bullied at school or you are a parent dealing with a distressed child who is being bullied right now. We can help with practical advice that's proven to stop bullying or help you approach the school to address the situation. Maybe the school simply isn't doing enough to prevent bullying or protect you child. Whatever you bullying situation, we can help
Cyber-bullying is on the increase - more and more cases are being reported to our helpline by children and extremely worried parents every day. It's a personal attack using technology, which is intended to cause you harm or distress. If you have been the target of on-line abuse or believe you are the victim of cyberbullying. We can offer practical advice and solutions to put a stop to this ecrime.
During 2017 there was a most disturbing, steep, rise in self-harm statistics among teenage girls, according to The BBC News. We have to ask whether some of these statistics are linked to bullying and to a condition The National Bullying Helpline is recognising in the UK called Post Traumatic Embitterment Disorder.
Stress is one on the biggest contributors to long term sick leave in the UK with over half a million workers citing stress, depression or anxiety as a factor to their absence in the last year. For more information about stress related to bullying at work click here as we address the issue of Work Related Stress.
With the rise of mobile phones and hand-held devices, social media has become part of everyone’s life and the use of social media has seen the growth of online bullying. Social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat allow people to share photos and video instantly around the world.
If bullying is not addressed mental illness can result through the repetition of negative experiences emotions, thinking patterns and behaviours. It is essential to understand that by the time mental illness is visible, a person will have gone through a sustained period of upset, confusion and negative emotions.
If you have concerns or a bullying problem at work, you might want to take formal action with your employer. This is called raising a grievance.
We can explain the advantages and disadvantages of raising a formal grievance at work. We also talk you through the process in general terms. We address the process and the steps to follow, along with your options, the risks and potential outcomes.
There are risks in terms of raising a formal complaint but there are also risks of doing nothing.
In the workplace we have dispute resolution procedures (The ACAS Code of Practice for example) but schools are left to their own devices. It is the current view of The Department of Education that Schools should put their own procedures in place. This is not good enough. Ofsted say they do not have the power to address bullying in schools.
Maybe its time for a compulsory code of practice for schools and an anti bullying policy designed to resolve conflict similar to the model set out in the workplace.
Here you will find Bullying Guides to help you through your current situation. They are well structured and contains sample letters and guidance to assist in almost every scenario. There will be something for you here to help tackle bullying, on or off-line. Before calling our helpline, take a quick look at the documents below.
Is your child being bullied, is a guide written by the founder of the National Bullying Helpline designed to walk you through every step of the process and help you resolve the problems your child is facing.
The guide includes everything you need to know from setting expectations, the role of the school, how to escalate matters to detailed template letters to the school, Headmaster and Governors or Trustees.
If someone has posted false, malicious or private things about you online and you believe the cyberbully is someone you know or used to be friends with, this can be very distressing.
This guide will help you understand what you can do and how to persuade the perpetrator to stop bullying you.
Anyone accused of being a bully will, naturally, be upset. If you are accused, it may be you are being subjected to a form of bullying yourself. Or, it may be, you need some assistance or additional resources.
This document is aimed at assisting those who are accused of bullying – whether there is substance to the allegation or not.
Gaslighting is a subtle and extremely common form of bullying within the work environment. It’s a manipulate power-game with deliberate intent to control an individual or control a situation. Employees subject to Gaslighting find themselves second-guessing their every decision and questioning their own sanity, making them more dependent on their abuser.
Spotting the signs of Gaslighting is easier than you think and it is highly likely you have observed or been on the receiving end of this behaviour.
As technology evolves and becomes increasingly complex we will all experience cyberbullying at some point. An issue for us all is the prospect of having our email or computer hacked and locked-down. The hacking is very often followed by blackmail in the form of a ransom note. You may have received an email claiming to have personal images of you with instructions to pay an amount of money to prevent them from becoming public. We cannot stop these ruthless individuals from attempting to hack us but we can take steps to protect ourselves.
We specialise in workplace bullying and harassment disputes and offer employees practical solutions and support. If you require help and advice with bullying at work and don’t find the answers to your questions here, please call us on 0845 22 55 787.
We have put together some quick answers to some of the most commonly asked questions about bullying at work. Bullying in the workplace can cover a vast range of topics including Bullying, Harassment, Stress and Constructive dismissal to mention a few. If you are looking for solutions or support for any of the following questions, we can help For more information on any of the following questions, please call us.
Bullying in the workplace is behaviour by your colleagues or managers that causes you distress. If the bullying is serious in your opinion or is repetitive or collusive...
If you've spoken to your manager and the bullying has continued, your manager might lack the skills to handle the situation. Escalating the matter in writing to your...
You can resign, work your notice and leave quietly. However, if you have not followed the company procedures then you will have no legal recourse and you will not be able to...
Subtle bullying can be described as the actions of someone who behaves inappropriately, often intentionally and usually behind your back, with the intention of being negative towards you...
Bullying can effect everyone differently but symptoms of bullying can include tearfulness (for no reason), feelings of anxiety, distress, loss of confidence, loss of sleep, nausea...
Simply refer to your in-house policies and either raise matters informally or put your concerns in writing by submitting a formal Stage 1 Grievance or complaint...
If you believe you are being bullied, you probably are. There is a lot of truth in this statement but there are other factors to consider too.
If you believe you are a bully it is highly unlikely you are as bullies are generally oblivious to their actions. If you have been accused of being a bully, we can help.
Headaches, nausea, sleeplessness are just some symptoms of stress. If you suffer with stress and your Doctor has signed you off work, it would be reasonable to say your employer is...
If you don't turn up for work and you don't have permission from your employer or from your Doctor, you could be in breach of your contract and risk facing a disciplinary or dismissal...
A lot of callers to our helpline believe they need to be able to prove that they are being bullied before they raise a complaint at work. This is not necessarily the case, although any evidence...
It might simply be because you are different in some way or because the bullies perceive you to be a threat or an easy target. Bullying is an abuse of power and the need to control others...
There are no dedicated bullying laws in the UK but there are numerous laws which an employee can rely on to bring a legal action against an employer. The process can be expensive...
Submitting a formal complaint under any circumstances can be a daunting prospect. If you believe something inappropriate is occurring in your workplace, you have a contractual...
Anti-Bullying Week occurs in November each year and helps put a spotlight on bullying issues around the country. It helps draw attention to the children trying to cope with bullying in school on a daily basis. It helps to remind managers and staff of the serious consequences that bullying can have in the workplace and it encourages all children, teachers, parents, managers and colleagues to take action against bullying throughout the whole year.
At The National Bullying Helpline we want to promote anti bullying week, every week. In order to do this, given that we spend most of our time thinking about the somewhat distressed target of bullying, we would like to focus a little on the bully. Our objective is to ensure you feel ‘informed’ so that you can, in turn, develop coping strategies for yourself and your loved ones.
It’s not rocket science in fact. A bully will likely be struggling with his or her own demons or problems, which in some cases are extremely deep-routed and historic. A bully may even be feeling insecure or threatened in some way, consciously or sub-consciously. They may simply feel a need to be regarded as ‘top dog’ – to be seen as the person who has power, control and authority over others. Don’t be fooled. In reality the bully is experiencing a cocktail of emotions themselves - from real fear and vulnerability to a somewhat perverted feeling of triumph and euphoria which they feel if they believe they have control over others. In reality, controlling a situation merely feeds the bullies own inadequacies. In reality, the target of the bully is the stronger person – certainly at the outset.
We say bullying is abuse of power and we know it is ultimately about a power over others but we should never forget that these bullies are actually hiding their own inadequacies. They often lack interpersonal skills. They are weak. They are cowards. If given a choice, they prefer to remain anonymous. This is why so many bullies work with gangs or collaborators, particularly in the workplace or school playground. Today, given our world of ever-changing technology, it’s easy to hide in cyberspace behind a pseudo name. If a bully is identified and accused of being a bully, they quickly switch persona and adopt the role of the victim. Sound familiar? It’s a classic tactic.
Often, where a parent reports that their child is being bullied we learn later that the child-bully is, or has been, abused themselves. They may simply have witnessed violence or abuse which has left them feeling unsafe, traumatised and vulnerable. They desperately need our help too. In both the playground and workplace particularly a bully will target a person who is perceived as a threat in some way. They make it their personal objective to humiliate and belittle that target until their victim stands down, backs off or has a health break-down. The target will probably feel a profound sense of injustice at having become the centre of a rather unpleasant and humiliating situation. It need only be a temporary situation – believe me. There is a way forward.
At The National Bullying Helpline we ask those who are experiencing bullying right now to stop and think, for a moment, about what is actually occurring here. If you are being bullied don’t internalise it. Don’t become a ‘victim’. Think about the bigger picture. The way you think about your situation will help you identify a solution. To develop coping mechanisms to deal with a bully you need to understand what is driving the bully and develop your own strategies. If you are dealing with a child bully, consider the childs’ welfare (home-life and personal circumstances) when considering the action you will take. If you are dealing with bullying in the home, community or workplace there is a great deal you can do.
We have written a series of guides on approaches and strategies to cover all scenarios in order to help you overcome and combat bullying. Even where it is eCRIME (cyberbullying) provided you know who the bully is you can take action. In every case, you can protect yourself and turn the situation round – if you really want to! Legislation is catching up with anti-social behaviour, both on and off-line, so provided you follow our advice and behave professionally yourself, there is so much you can do. To start this process, choose to be respectful. Next, keep both yourself and your loved ones informed. Knowledge is power !
We often hear from parents regarding a negative response they 'allege' they have received from their child's School. Obviously this does not apply to all Schools. However, more and more we hear of cases where parents are left feeling angry and frustrated with a School because all attempts to raise matters with the school have proved fruitless.
Sometimes, the bullying incident(s) involving the child becomes secondary - as the relationship between the parent and the School breaks down completely. We have even heard from some parents that a School has labelled them 'paranoid'. The parent wants to protect their child. The Teacher and School wants to protect their reputation. When both parties are at a point self preservation it can be very difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
We will act if we believe and adult or child is at risk or in danger. We have a Service Agreement with Wiltshire Police, covering the UK, and we work closely with them in cases where an individual feels intimidated or threatened in any way. In an emergency you can contact the Police Domestic Violence Liaison Officer : North & West Wilts. Telephone: 01249 449766
We help people in distress in a practical, positive, timely, way and in some cases we will put callers in touch with professional service providers ; (ACAS, Solicitors, Mediators, Counsellors and other dispute resolution service providers etc).
eCRIME Action is a dedicated website set up by the National Bullying Helpline to help anyone effected by cyber bullying or online harassment. We hope that eCRIME Action website will give the public ‘choice’ in terms of help-lines, guidance and expertise available to take pressure off Parents, Schools and the Police.
The National Bullying Helpline is pleased to announce that Actress Debbie Arnold has
agreed to come on board as an Ambassador. Debbie is an Actress, an Author, an Altruist, a Writer and a Voice Artist. She has raised millions for charity. Apart from a distinguished stage abs voice-over career she has appeared in every UK TV soap over the last 30 years as a regular character. We are delighted to have her on board as Ambassador as she will help us convey some of the more important messages where harassment and sexual abuse is alleged. We want people to feel safe and comfortable and able to speak out.
" By becoming an Ambassador for us Debbie is making her position extremely clear where bullying and harassment are concerned. She is extraordinarily talented and a very strong, focused and professional woman. She will be able to help us convey some of our more important messages where harassment and sexual abuse is concerned and we are delighted to have her on board". Founder of The National Bullying Helpline
“When you decide to call” was written by songwriters David MIndel and Adrian Bax and the Video, marketing and release involved Trevor Eyles and Jon Diamond. Debbie Arnold coordinated the entire project during her first month as Ambassador for the helpline and gifted the song to us.
441, the singers, are an extraordinarily talented and exciting group of four diverse young musicians who have formed a band to both make music and make a positive difference to the world we live in today. They have a tremendous future – so watch out for them. Please support our helpline by downloading ‘When You Decide To Call’ … today
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